Building Confidence for Public Speaking

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Building Confidence for Public Speaking

This is the third 2020 blog on building confidence. The February blog was titled How to Appear Confident and the March blog, The Importance of Saying Your Name Confidently.Do you feel nervous when presenting in public? We can all feel this, however, a little nervous tension can enhance your performance.  Yet, on the other hand, too much nervousness can spoil a performance.Nervousness is a result of fear – fear of failure, shyness, making an error, memory lapse, looking incompetent or foolish.  Sometimes the audience doesn’t know how you are feeling. Other times the audience will know you are nervous because of your physical symptoms such a ‘red neck flush’, breathlessness or sweating. Behaviour can also be a clue that you have nervous tension. Looking at the ceiling or floor, speaking too fast and looking uncomfortable at the lectern are recognisable by an audience.There are several strategies to reduce your nervousness and develop your confidence. Continue reading for more important strategies.
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Celebrating via Zoom

Celebrating with Jubilation via Zoom

Celebrating via Zoom

Success StoryOn Monday 20th April 2020 the members of the Brighton SA group of Speaking Made Easy tried something NEW.This group was formed in 1966 and celebrated their 54th birthday on this Monday with a picture of their birthday cake and a Zoom meeting! Not sure when they will get to eat the cake?The majority of the group have little experience of computers and the internet beyond emails, but were determined to ‘give it a go’. They were delighted with the result – a meeting lasting 100 minutes from the comfort of their own homes and listening to three very interesting speeches on the topic “Laughter is the best medicine”.
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The Importance of Saying Your Name Confidently

The Importance of Saying Your Name Confidently

When you say your name, how do you say it? Do you use a soft-spoken voice? Or are you loud and proud?It doesn’t matter if you are meeting someone for the first time, leaving a message on the telephone or introducing yourself to a group of people. How you say your name says a lot about you. Say your name meekly and you appear shy. Say your name too strongly and too loud, you may appear arrogant or over-confident or demanding.First, let us look at some facts about names. Names are carefully chosen by parents and sometimes pass from generation to generation. Some women choose to proudly take on the name of their partner or name their children with the partner’s surname. Names can have special meanings, depending on the cultural meaning. They are more than a jumble of letters. The name chosen for you tends to be special for you, and maybe a nickname or shortened version is a term of endearment or inclusion.Dale Carnegie, an American writer, lecturer and public speaker, once said “A person’s name is to him or her, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”Tone is the key to confidence. Introduce yourself with confidence. Ideally, you would like other people to say your name correctly and remember it.It is usual to hear people say “I’m . . .”, or “My name is . . .”. Sometimes you hear “My name’s”, contracting “name” and “is”.“I’m”, and not “I am”, usually used because it is brief and is part of our spoken language compared to the written word. Using the short version “I’m” allows the emphasis to be placed on the name which is the important part of the sentence.Here are examples: Hi. I’m Sue Smith. Hello, I’m Pam Spencer I’m Rachel Holding Hi everyone. I’m Alison Wong Hi, my name is Marnie Stuart is an example of someone saying. "My name is,” Using an example of the contracted name is My name’s Heidi Green
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Coronavirus (Covid-19)

Coronavirus (Covid-19)

The National Executive of Speaking Made Easy are recommending members follow the guidelines below.Follow the Federal Government health advice and restrictions Follow the State Government health advice and restrictions Follow the medical advice provided Comply with venue closures Regions make their own decisions, whether to hold a function/event, postpone or cancel Group members make their own decision to hold or cancel a group meeting Individual members make their own decision to attend, or not attend, a group meetingPlease stay safe, look after yourselves and others in this difficult time.
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How to Appear Confident (even when you’re not)

How to Appear Confident (even when you’re not)

Do you sometimes feel nervous and not confident? Does a lack of confidence affect your life and career? Often negative feedback or personal experiences contribute to the lack of confidence feelings.Over the coming few months Speaking Made Easy is going to provide you with some ways to build your confidence.First, learn how to appear more confident and actually feel confident. Looking more confident will assist you to get a better job, maintain healthy relationships and deeper connections with people. Empowering yourself will directly help you reach your goals. Being prepared and appearing confident will have a positive impact on the people you are meeting and any audience you may be facing. It will also improve your self-confidence.
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Women Enriching the Lives of Other Women

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Women Enriching the Lives of Other Women

Five women met at the Horseshoe Cafe in Sydney in 1937. Imagine how they would feel if they knew that the organisation they started, is now continuing over 80 years later.One of these women recognised a real need for women to become competent, confident speakers and to know meeting procedure. Thus The Penguin Club of Australia was born with the late M. Jean Ellis at the helm. It is not clear why this name was chosen and there are various stories about the origin of the name.Co-founders of the Club, Mrs. C. T. Parkinson and Mrs. M. Jean Ellis were elected President and Honorary Secretary respectively. Almost immediately after launching the new Club, Mrs. Parkinson left for a twelve month visit to England. On her return she was in poor health and Jean Ellis took on the task of organising and expanding the Club. She assumed the joint roles of Federal President and Honorary Federal Organiser, and set about the expansion of the Club to all States and to Papua New Guinea. The Penguin Club is non-political and non-sectarian. Jean Ellis had unflagging energy and enthusiasm for the Penguin Club and her work in other organisations.
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Heathers Success

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Heather's Success

I was an okay public speaker, looking to find some tips to help me become a better, more confident speaker, when I joined what was then called The Penguin Club (now Speaking Made Easy). From the first meeting I attended, I knew I had found a supportive and wise group of women who could guide and encourage me to become a better public speaker. Learning in a new small group format, with regular meetings, offers plenty of opportunities for women to develop their confidence speaking to a group, which starts to open up more opportunities outside of Speaking Made Easy.
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Conversation Secrets

Conversation Secrets

Conversation Secrets

Do you think you are public speaking if you are talking to one or two people? Perhaps you are speaking to five to ten people. Or do you need to have 20, 50 or 100 in the audience to consider being a public speaker?When talking to others, whatever the number of people, you are public speaking. You are speaking to another member of the public.Some people lack confidence to speak up and speak out when standing in front of a large crowd. Others find they don’t have the skills and/or confidence required for conversations.Many seem to make conversation look easy. We all know someone who is a non-stop talker. Watch politicians manipulate and direct conversations. Often we can have a good conversation on topics which are familiar such as personal matters, interests, hobbies and work-related subjects. Conversations can be easier with people we are close to or love.
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Speaking at Social Occasions

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Speaking at Social Occasions

How confident are you if you’re asked to say a few words at a social occasion? Many of us are not confident and shy away from standing in front of an audience.Whether you are speaking in front of teenagers, attendees at a 21st birthday, black tie dinner for an award ceremony, or presenting a eulogy for a departed friend, the recipe is the same as for any other speech.Begin with an opening which immediately commands attention. Develop the body in a logical sequence and conclude with an ending that leaves them laughing, crying, or both.As you know, there are various social speeches and some of the common ones are discussed below.
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