Are you aware of what you have communicated when you walk into a room or stand in front of an audience, without saying a word? Imagine you are in the audience and the speaker, with head down, wanders to the front of the audience in her house-painting clothes with splatted colours on her shabby hat, shirt, jeans and shoes. What would you be thinking?  Whether you know it or not, you have made a judgement about the speaker.

Have you ever felt compelled to speak up on an issue? In addition to presenting a speech to an audience, writing a letter or email is another way to express your opinion to make a difference.

Giving a speech at an assembly of adolescents, a black tie dinner, a 21st birthday, a eulogy or the farewell of a retiring colleague, the recipe is the same as for any other speech. Begin with an opening which immediately commands attention, develop the main content (body of the speech) in a logical sequence and conclude with an ending that leaves them laughing, crying or even both. Depending on the occasion, often the purpose of the social speech is to praise, celebrate or remember.

Whether you are at a social occasion, studying, or at work you will find discussions are being held and you are expected to participate.

Giving an opinion is an excellent way to interact with people in formal and informal settings. However, there are some aspects to think about whether you will give an opinion or not.

Do you know someone who reels out a monologue to their listeners, and doesn’t realise a conversation requires dialogue? A garrulous person doesn’t just like to talk, they indulge in talking for talking’s sake. Some people cannot keep quiet and others remain silent. On the other hand, we all know someone who has the knack for good conversation. They have a manner which can set a stranger at ease.

Have you ever known people who immediately connect with others?  It doesn’t matter who they meet, they create mutual understanding and trust. These people seem to have a natural ability. However, anyone can learn the skills of rapport and nurture them.

Speaking confidently can be achieved by using techniques which create a dynamic message. However, the most important thing to remember is to fully know and understand what you are saying, and why you are saying it. A monotone delivery, low energy, speaking softly and mumbling are not enjoyed by anyone. Your voice has the power to completely change what others think of you. You can choose to be the authentic you.

Do you feel nervous when presenting in public? We can all feel this, however, a little nervous tension can enhance your performance.  Yet, on the other hand, too much nervousness can spoil a performance.